Lifestyle
as a Christian Single
What does that mean? Well people never really talk about it because they are afraid they will offend someone else...How does proclaiming to be a Christian flip the script of a single's lifestyle?
I was having a conversation with a
friend. She was explaining that she didn’t see the point in getting married.
She loved her life as a single, she loved that she was drama- free, and her man
as well as she was happy with the lifestyle that they had chosen for the last
past five years. They were also planning on trying for children really soon. Truth
is they could use that money that was going to be spent on a wedding for their
new house they were buying.
She went on to explain why she refused
to follow a set of rules when all that mattered was that she was happy. They
both went to church and stuff. They both had really good jobs and it was all
good.
She
went on to explain that I had probably missed out on a lot of great guys and
fun due to the fact that I was waiting to hear from God within trying to uphold
to his standards. It can still work out she explained. So how did I feel about
this as her Christian friend?
My response:
Okay, so you asked...From
a worldly perspective, it sometimes works out where couples are happy and from the
outside it seems that it is working out for them. More of society is starting
to lean that way with the popular opinion. It just would NOT work for me.
And
we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who
have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 (New International Version)
See your good and my good are two
different things. When I became a Christian at a young age, I laid down my life
for Christ. Things that worked for other people just didn’t work for me. Things
other people did freely, my conscience couldn’t rest. My first love was Christ
and is Christ. With that he gave me wisdom of spiritual discernment which most
people don’t understand. My conscience and guilt takes over. The sin that I
would have liked to continue in just didn’t fly well with the Holy Spirit that
lied inside of me because I knew better. In all honesty, I have guy friends
that I could have chosen to cohabitate with and I know that they probably would
have been a good father, friend, and even provider. This doesn’t mean that they
are bad people, but they just weren’t who God had for me and fighting the idea
never added to the glory of any it. But yet because I know what the word of God
says, I have chosen NOT to go against God’s will.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
(NIV) Flee from
sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body but he who
sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that, your body is a
temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are
not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Maybe, that is the reason why my life’s events
seem uncanny yet in the regards of some people’s timing. But I do know that
waiting on God is worth it. After all, he just sacrificed his entire life for
me. So I am going to wait on the man who is after God’s own heart. I am going
to wait on the man whose values line up with mine in serving God and raising
our children. When it is God’s story, then I don’t have any worries. I have to believe that he knows what is best for me and his plans are not to cause me harm.
That Guy?? I will recognize him by his fruit and in how
he treats me.
What fruits? The fruits of the spirit as my grandma
always use to say try the spirit by the spirit. Treat you right?? Treating you right doesn't mean buying you stuff 24/7, but sincerely showing enough interest not to purposely ignore you or deceive you. I will know because I will have that peace. Peace?? Peace that only comes from God. When he shows you then believe him.
He want be there to
complete me for I am already complete in Christ. He will indeed though complete
the work that must go forth in Kingdom Building. It goes beyond compatibility
to suitability.
And if he never came, my love for God
shall remain the same. On that glorious day, I will be able to look God in the
face and know that I really did try. As I yearn to hear his voice say, “Servant
job well done.” So your purpose may simply be to find pleasure, happiness, and
joy on earth. But my purpose is far more eternal.
So
to each its own girl, but this is why it just couldn’t work for me.
